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Be a Genius: One Step at a Time

In a meeting this morning, a couple of individuals whom I respect a great deal were referring to a mutual friend of ours as "a genius," citing examples of the notable expertise that he has developed. While I nodded my head in agreement, I was also considering the mistake that was being made in that assessment. Because, in my view, labeling this man a “genius” might actually diminish the work he undertook to accomplish what he has. I know for a fact, and so did they, that he had spent countless hours (easily 15,000) over the last 15 years perfecting one single area of expertise. He was not simply "a genius." He worked extremely hard to get where he is.

The point is, he not only worked hard, he disciplined himself to become great at what he did. I don’t doubt that he began with very strong predispositions and inherent talents toward his proficiency, but what really made the difference is that he woke up every morning with determination to do his best, again, and again, and again...

The reason for my passing this on to you is simple: The best way to coach people toward success is first to firmly establish where they want to go, then help them determine how they are going to get there...not in giant leaps, rather with small steps, every day.

In our times of instant gratification and low frustration tolerance, your primary role will be to stay watchful for the inevitable signs of fatigue and frustration. Then when you see them, re-frame the person's pain, and remind them that very few things worth having come easily.

Here are some quotes to emphasize my point:

"Character may be manifested in the great moments, but it is made in the small ones." —Winston Churchill

"We do no great things, only small things with great love." —Mother Teresa

"I long to accomplish a great and noble task, but it is my chief duty to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble." —Helen Keller

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Editor's Note: This article was written by Dr. David Mashburn. Dave is a Clinical and Consulting Psychologist, a Partner at Tidemark, Inc. and a regular contributor to WorkPuzzle. Comments or questions are welcome. If you're an email subscriber, reply to this WorkPuzzle email. If you read the blog directly from the web, you can click the "comments" link below.

Why you should Ignore the Generation X, Y and Z Rhetoric

During a recent presentation focused on the psychology of recruiting, I was asked to elaborate more fully on the difference in the psychology of generations X, Y and Z.  Specifically, the manager wanted to know what they could do to more effectively reach these elusive generations.  What was originally meant to be a brief response to this question turned into a prolonged sermon that resulted in more nodding heads than I’ve seen in a long time.  It resonated so much with these managers that I felt pretty strongly it was worth the time to pass these thoughts on to you.

There are three things you need to know: 

1. Yes, X, Y, and Z generations are very different.
2. Self-indulging and child indulging baby-boomer parents made them this way. 
3. At their core, most people are the same and will respond favorably if you meet their most basic needs. 

 Let's unpack each one of these individually: 

1. These younger generations do appear to be disloyal, are out for the best deal, expect to be paid immediately, aren't willing to do menial tasks first, and are willing to change jobs or firms in a moments notice.  These are real and true observations, and because of these observations, companies and vendors go to great lengths to try to find ways to respond to these characteristics that only wind up exacerbating the condition.  Why do I call it a condition?  Because it is a disease.  It cannot sustain your company, our culture, the nation, or the world.  Find a company or country that attempts to cater to these needs, and I’ll show you one that is on the precipice of collapse.
2. It's time to take responsibility and fess up to the values many parents within the baby boomer generation have created.  This is a generation that believed that immediate personal pleasure was more important than service to others.  Self-esteem without contribution was more important than earning the respect of others.  Frustration, struggles and hard work were to be soothed as quickly as possible and replaced with rescue and pampering.  Unfortunately, while all the above was going on, their most basic needs were being ignored.  Many of them were left alone, with a Nintendo, or X-box as a babysitter, activities were valued over relationship building, and family dinners were held on Thanksgiving and Christmas.
3. The good news is that to redeem the mistakes of the past, we can easily return to the core needs of all human beings.  There is an old saying..."There is nothing new under the sun."  When it comes to people, we are all basically the same and will never, at our very core, change.  When you purposefully seek to meet those needs, you can reclaim the dormant needs of these individuals and bring out the best in them, and your company.  As we have presented repeatedly in WorkPuzzle, science has proven without question, that happiness is never experienced through increasing the frequency and duration of personal pleasure.  Being confident in this allows you to offer these young people something more compelling that meets a need they didn’t even know that they had, and deeply resonates with every human being. 

People need to belong, they need to have high expectations, and they need a goal that is bigger than themselves...with a company painting a picture of doing something special.  Are you doing that?  What you have to offer is better than what many of these young people are being offered elsewhere: A chance to learn some skills that would be transferable to many occupations.

My 26-year-old son recently quit his last job to tour the world for five months.  Upon his return he had three organizations giving him fairly generous offers to work for them.  What separated the one he chose to work for from the other two?  The one he chose went out of their way to make him feel welcome.  Everyone greeted him as he walked in for the interview, several people emailed him with positive comments, and each of his questions was followed up with immediate answers.  He even received a very nice note from the boss of bosses in this firm.  In other words, he was treated like he was already hired and part of the big, efficient, family.  He was also introduced to top performers who treated him like he was a peer, and yet clearly introduced to what was expected in a way that raised high expectations without undo pressure.  The support he would receive upon being hired was clearly seen in every interaction. 

So, the question for your company is:  Can you move past what you’ve heard about these younger generations and speak to their deeper needs?  If you can, you’ll attract the best of the best. 

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Editor's Note: This article was written by Dr. David Mashburn. Dave is a Clinical and Consulting Psychologist, a Partner at Tidemark, Inc. and a regular contributor to WorkPuzzle. Comments or questions are welcome. If you're an email subscriber, reply to this WorkPuzzle email. If you read the blog directly from the web, you can click the "comments" link below.

How great expectations lead to better results

Have you ever wondered how important positive expectations are in the workplace? Take a moment to think about when, and under what conditions, you best perform...

The Rosenthal Effect refers to a phenomenon that many of us might understand intuitively, but can't fathom the sheer amount of power and achievement it can harness. It emphatically shows that the greater the expectation placed upon people, the better they perform. The Rosenthal Effect is in essence, a self-fulfilling prophecy whereby people with poor expectations internalize their negative label, and perform poorly...while those with positive self-imposed labels, exceed their own apparent abilities.

In the late 1960's, Robert Rosenthal showed that if teachers were led to expect enhanced performance from a select group of children, these children were able to rise above previously predicted achievement levels. What he (and others who came after him) has proven, is that reality can be influenced by the expectations of others...And it goes both ways: Detrimental effects come from negative expectations just as strongly as achievement results from positive expectations.

What biases do you bring to the table with new agent candidates? Are you one of those who believe that everyone has a certain ceiling of performance that they will never exceed? Do you refrain from holding people to high expectations because it feels mean or unfair? "After all, this person couldn't pull it off, so it would be cruel to expect that they will?" This kind of thinking, Rosenthal and others have termed the "observer-expectancy effect," where a person forms unconscious, biased expectations, based on extremely limited, and usually irrelevant information...and creates a downward spiraling, self-fulfilling prophecy as a result.

The Rosenthal Effect is confirmed by Jane Elliot's blue-eyed versus brown-eyed discrimination exercise. In this experiment, a group of third graders were told that they were going to take turns looking down upon one half of the classroom, as if they were inferior people. They used something completely random to determine who would be inferior/superior - eye color. The first day of the experiment, one group was given preference and regarded as "superior" because of their eye color, while the other group was made to feel inferior in intelligence and learning ability. On the second day of the experiment, the groups were completely reversed; those who had been treated as lower-than, were regarded as superior, and those who were treated as superior were treated as dummies.

The teacher continued to hold classroom structure and assignments as if the "experiment" wasn't occurring. In keeping with the classroom routine, spelling tests were administered on both days. The results strongly confirm the Rosenthal effect: The students scored very low on the day they were "inferior," and very high on the day they were considered "superior."

It's time to recalibrate the way you approach everyone you are responsible for. Check your internal biases, reset your expectations, and watch people flourish.

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Editor's Note: This article was written by Dr. David Mashburn. Dave is a Clinical and Consulting Psychologist, a Partner at Tidemark, Inc. and a regular contributor to WorkPuzzle. Comments or questions are welcome. If you're an email subscriber, reply to this WorkPuzzle email. If you read the blog directly from the web, you can click the "comments" link below.

How to Coach in Five Minutes

Among the many management topics out there, people tend to feel the most confusion about one in particular...coaching.  Despite the plethora of material available on the subject, there are some managers out there who continue to exercise coaching methods used by their childhood sports coaches.  Well, if you're like me, you'd be duplicating behavior that wasn't very pleasant in the first place.  I never really liked any of my coaches.  Why?  There are a multitude of reasons...  They never really knew me, for one.  They didn't ask me questions, and if they did ask, they weren't meant to be answered:  "Why didn't you block your man?"  Because I'm 20 pounds lighter and I don't like the feeling of getting my clocked cleaned!

At the heart of effective coaching lies something much simpler and so much more rewarding for everyone.  Coaching is first and foremost based on the formula that if I, the coach, ask the right questions, I can elicit information from the coachie that he/she hasn't even thought of before.  When this happens, people follow through, set better goals, and come to you again and again to help them achieve the same magic advice that came from their own mind.  It's a wonderful formula that we all forget too often.  I know I do.

If you've come to this article, hoping to figure out how to do all of your coaching in five minutes...I'm sorry, but it can't be done.  Nonetheless, for those occasions when you don't have more time, below is a good blueprint for coaching others...in five minutes.  Remember, with the following questions, your job is to ask, listen, and ask them to tell you more.

Here are the questions I found in an article by Scott Eblin (potential follow up questions are in parentheses):

1. What’s the most important meeting or event coming up on your calendar in the next week?
2. If that meeting or event is a complete success, what happens at the end?  (What do people know, think, do, feel or believe?)
3. How do you need to show up to make that outcome likely?  (What are you going to say and how are you going to say it?  What kind of energy, body language, tone of voice, and demeanor do you need to demonstrate?)
4. (What else?)  This is the all-purpose coaching question, because it draws out the extra ideas.

Pretty simple, huh?  Well, the hard part is keeping your direction, your agenda, your ego in check, and your mouth shut.  This is about them, not you.  This is a problem for most of us.  Let the process work and get back to me on how it went... 

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Editor's Note: This article was written by Dr. David Mashburn. Dave is a Clinical and Consulting Psychologist, a Partner at Tidemark, Inc. and a regular contributor to WorkPuzzle. Comments or questions are welcome. If you're an email subscriber, reply to this WorkPuzzle email. If you read the blog directly from the web, you can click the "comments" link below. 

Psychology at the End of the World

I love true adventure stories.  I can't tell you exactly why, but at the very least, they help me resist becoming complacent with living a risk-free life.  Another reason is that these stories typically tell me something about how courageous people are wired...how they think, feel, interact..and most importantly, how they respond to inevitable setbacks, disappointments and fears.

These stories also attract the scientific eye of research psychologists, who are interested in what happens to the human mind and human relationships under such extreme conditions.  I've posted several articles based on real life stories of adventure, with all the trials and tribulations that go along with the experiences.  I believe these stories offer insight for us all into ourselves, our organizations, and most importantly, how we can successfully navigate difficult times.  In a post written by Christian Jerrett for BPS Digest, I found a fascinating story that illustrates some great principles we can all learn from.  I trust that you will thoroughly enjoy the research findings below...and in the next edition, I will follow up with my own insight regarding how all of this applies to you and your team.

"A new paper by Gloria Leon and her colleagues has gauged the psychological profile and experiences of two polar explorers - given the pseudonyms Bill (age 32) and Andrew (age 35) - who in 2009 became the first team from the USA to reach the North Pole without outside support.  Starting out from Ward Hut Island in Canada, they reached their target in 55 days.  Personality profiles of the men prior to the challenge were largely as you might expect - they were both high-scorers in leadership and extraversion and low scorers on harm-avoidance.  Andrew also scored low in conscientiousness, which may be unexpected given the preparation required for an expedition, and had a tendency to become highly engrossed in his own thoughts and surroundings.

The challenge itself was grueling, with each man hauling a 300 pound sled.  Temperatures ranged from minus 60 degrees Fahrenheit at the start to zero degrees Fahrenheit at the end.  Both men lost significant amounts of weight.  At one point, Bill fell through ice and was submerged up to his neck, only narrowly escaping hypothermia.  The final leg of the trip was the most arduous as the duo fought to reach their destination before their helicopter arrived on Day 56 (it was to pick them up whether they'd reached their target or not).  For the last 66 hours, the pair had just one hour of sleep for every 16 hours on the move.  Throughout, the men filled out weekly questionnaires about their coping methods, their relationship, and their mood.  They were also interviewed a few weeks after their return, and again six months later.

For the duration of the expedition, both men scored high on positive mood and low on negative mood.  They survived and succeeded by supporting each other and communicating effectively, and by adopting flexible coping strategies, including positive re-interpretation of challenges and use of relaxation and meditation.  Their relationship hit a low point around day 40 when Andrew aired his grievances about planning for the trip, but they worked through this constructively.  These observations contradict some earlier research suggesting that all-male groups suffer from excess competitiveness.

'We were basically one persona when it came to goal orientation,' Bill said.  'We had a high degree of self-care for each other and ourselves,' he explained.  Andrew said: 'Anytime we expressed ourselves it brought us closer... We talked more about recognizing differences and embracing our similarities and we celebrated that it was really fun.'  Based on this, the researchers said it was important not to overgeneralize the effects of gender on group processes.  'By focusing their interactions on supporting each other, competition between them was minimized or essentially eliminated,' they said."

So what was the long term impact?  Both men "experienced a greater sense of unity with nature and a reduction in their need for conventional achievement, in terms of social status and prestige."

Reflect on this for a few moments... and please add your comments or email me personally with your thoughts...

Source:  Leon, G., Sandal, G., Fink, B., and Ciofani, P. (2011).  Positive Experiences and Personal Growth in a Two-Man North Pole Expedition Team.  Environment and Behavior, 43 (5), 710-731 DOI:10.1177/0013916510375039

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Editor's Note: This article was written by Dr. David Mashburn. Dave is a Clinical and Consulting Psychologist, a Partner at Tidemark, Inc. and a regular contributor to WorkPuzzle. Comments or questions are welcome. If you're an email subscriber, reply to this WorkPuzzle email. If you read the blog directly from the web, you can click the "comments" link below. 

Failure Leads to Success--Part 2

Picking up where I left off in the last edition...Researchers who have attempted to predict success in a myriad of responsibilities, are finding that resilience and character may be much more important than more commonly used measures, such as IQ, test scores, and pedigree.

Angela Lee Duckworth, PhD, conducted a series of studies on a concept called "grit."  Grit is another word for backbone, chutzpah, fortitude, guts, stick-to-it-iveness, etc.  It all started when Dr. Duckworth (while a student in Graduate School) observed that it wasn't necessarily the smartest people who succeeded and made a lasting impact on science.

She had a hunch that it was a person's personal "grit" recipe that made the difference in their level of success.  Across six studies, Duckworth found that grit significantly contributed to successful outcomes: Undergrads with the most grit earned higher grade point averages than their peers.  West Point Cadets with the highest levels of grit were more likely to return after the first summer.  Even "grittier" spelling bee competitors (a situation where IQ would seem the best predictor) out-spelled their less tenacious competitors.  Among older individuals, people with substantial grit had higher levels of education and made fewer career changes than less gritty peers of the same age.

In reviewing the literature, there appears to be little explanation as to how a person can acquire grit.  So, is this something we either have...or we don't?  Is it based on our genetic make-up?  Or, are there outside influences that haven't been explored as of yet (socio-economic status, traumatic circumstances early in life, family dynamics, etc..)?

To further reinforce our collective ignorance regarding what genuinely predicts success, we'll look to an article by Bridget Murray titled, “Why We Don't Pick Good Quarterbacks."  The article highlights viewpoints by best-selling author, Malcolm Gladwell, who also writes for The New Yorker.  Gladwell illustrates the natural biases the NFL continues to display in their stubborn adherence to assessing potential, despite the fact that they are playing a lottery game.  To illustrate natural bias and its consequences, Gladwell points to what he calls "the quarterback problem:"

"Each year, the National Football League (NFL) selects new recruits by testing college players physically and cognitively.  The tests work fine for most player positions, but when it comes to quarterbacks, said Gladwell, 'they do an absolutely terrible job of predicting who will do well.'  Why?  Largely because NFL leaders succumb to the natural bias, favoring quarterback candidates who are tall, fast and strong, rather than those who are slower or shorter, 'and who have had to compensate for those deficiencies with increased hard work, guile and intelligence.'

Meanwhile, said Gladwell, the evidence suggests that, if anything, the latter group proves to be better quarterbacks.  'It's about a particular cultural fascination with the idea of potential,' he explained.  'NFL teams think that these [natural athletes] have more room to improve than anybody else.'

Gladwell pointed to Enron as another real-world case study.  The company cherry-picked its executives from the nation's top MBA programs and promoted people based on smarts, rather than experience.  The result was the worst corporate meltdown in national history...

'Once we've discovered these things that are under our unconscious' control, are we supposed to just stand idly by?  No.  We should fight the unconscious,' said Gladwell.  'And let's not just do it with theory.  Let's do it with corporate America, let's do it with college admissions, and let's do it on the football field....We have in this country a very powerful ideology--or more like mythology--that if you work hard, you will get ahead.  Part of what we need to do is to take that mythology--which has been neglected--and refurbish it...And structure our social institutions so that they reflect that.' "

If the above doesn't get you rethinking your own tightly held biases that just might favor style and potential over substance, hard work, grit and other unseen variables, then don't miss the new critically acclaimed movie, "Moneyball."  It will surely leave you feeling that what you know just might be limiting your imagination. 

What biases do you bring to the table?  Write them down, so at least you can be aware of how many candidates you may be prematurely dismissing.

What would happen if you held yourself accountable to put every bias aside and simply ask candidates questions like: 

• At what point in your life did you know that you could persevere through any difficulty? 
• When did you realize that you had the ability to over-achieve and compete with, apparently, more capable people?

Who knows what gems you'll find in places that you've never looked before...

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Editor's Note: This article was written by Dr. David Mashburn. Dave is a Clinical and Consulting Psychologist, a Partner at Tidemark, Inc. and a regular contributor to WorkPuzzle. Comments or questions are welcome. If you're an email subscriber, reply to this WorkPuzzle email. If you read the blog directly from the web, you can click the "comments" link below. 

Failure Leads To Success

Over lunch today, Ben and I discussed the fairly well know eternal truth:  "Suffering produces endurance, endurance builds character, and character gives one hope."

Wow, what a concept...character produces hope.  This flies in the face of most myths we are fed through the media, movies and modern day parenting practices, doesn’t it?  It certainly makes us reconsider serving up the gravy train for our kids.

But it got me thinking...What value do most organizations truly place on character?  Do you fall into the fallacy of style over substance?

Riverdale Country School is one of New York City’s most prestigious private schools, earning itself a place among the city’s most elite private-schools.  Tuition starts at $38,500 a year...and that’s for prekindergarten.  The headmaster, Dominic Randolf, is drastically changing the way high potential kids are assessed and screened.

Paul Tough of the New York Times writes:

“Randolph is surprisingly skeptical about many of the basic elements of a contemporary high-stakes American education.  He did away with Advanced Placement classes in the high school soon after he arrived at Riverdale and he says that the standardized tests that Riverdale and other private schools require for admission to kindergarten and to middle school are 'a patently unfair system' because they evaluate students almost entirely by I.Q.  'This push on tests,' he told me, 'is missing out on some serious parts of what it means to be a successful human.'

The most critical missing piece, Randolph explained as we sat in his office last fall, is character — those essential traits of mind and habit that were drilled into him at boarding school in England and that also have deep roots in American history. 'Whether it’s the pioneer in the Conestoga wagon or someone coming here in the 1920s from southern Italy, there was this idea in America that if you worked hard and you showed real grit, that you could be successful,' he said.  'Strangely, we’ve now forgotten that.  People who have an easy time of things, who get 800s on their SAT’s...I worry that those people get feedback that everything they’re doing is great.  And I think as a result, we are actually setting them up for long-term failure.  When that person suddenly has to face up to a difficult moment, then I think they’re screwed, to be honest.  I don’t think they’ve grown the capacities to be able to handle that.'

Instead, he is determined to figure out how to instill character traits and virtues in these privileged kids he is entrusted to educate.

'The idea of building grit and building self-control is that you get that through failure,' Randolph explained.  'And in most highly academic environments in the United States, no one fails anything.' "

My guess is that most of you who continue to “experience hope” in the real estate industry, have developed character through failure at some point in your life...long before conditions in the real estate market worsened.  Those who were riding the success on the coat tails of everyone else’s hard work over the last couple of decades, couldn’t handle the recent adversity, and hit the road.  It may not be wise to hire through that same lens again...

So, how can you identify character in interviews?  How can you alter your discussions with those you coach and mentor to help build character, and therefore build hope for the future of real estate?

In the next edition, I’ll share with you some interesting research findings and an assessment that might help get to the heart of the matter.

But for the next few days your homework is very simple:  Simply memorize or recite 100 times...“And Character Produces Hope.”

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Editor's Note: This article was written by Dr. David Mashburn. Dave is a Clinical and Consulting Psychologist, a Partner at Tidemark, Inc. and a regular contributor to WorkPuzzle. Comments or questions are welcome. If you're an email subscriber, reply to this WorkPuzzle email. If you read the blog directly from the web, you can click the "comments" link below. 

Vulnerability and Leadership

My previous post addressed the far reaching negative impact of rudeness on a culture's performance and creativity.  In contrast, today I'd like to discuss an alternative to that type of leadership...the vulnerable leader.

People want to be led by real people.  We respond best to leaders who don't have all the answers, who admit mistakes, and who are willing to apologize when appropriate.  The following excerpt, written by John Baldoni, expresses this idea very well:

"No one aspires to leadership to reveal vulnerability.  In some ways  this may be the antithesis of our expectation that a leader remain always in control.  We want our leaders to be strong as well as bold; we don’t like to see them weak; we don’t want them to be humbled.  But at the same time, we need them to show humility.

Showing humility is an acknowledgment that you are first and foremost human, capable of doing good things but also aware that you have your shortcomings.  Yes, dealing with those failings is a sign of vulnerability, but doing so reveals courage rather than cowardice.  Aspiring to self-perfection is a fool’s errand; admitting to falling short and resolving to do your best is a sign of strength.

There is another aspect to vulnerability; it has mass appeal.  The leader who is willing to admit he or she does not have all of the answers but still tries, is one that seems more believable than someone who pretends to know it all.  It has been said many times that dictators are those who have all the answers.  Leaders by contrast have answers but are smart enough to understand what they know and what they do not know."

Finding that delicate balance between confidence and vulnerability is a life-long balancing act.  But, if you make it a personal challenge, it's worth the effort...

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Editor's Note: This article was written by Dr. David Mashburn. Dave is a Clinical and Consulting Psychologist, a Partner at Tidemark, Inc. and a regular contributor to WorkPuzzle. Comments or questions are welcome. If you're an email subscriber, reply to this WorkPuzzle email. If you read the blog directly from the web, you can click the "comments" link below. 

How Rudeness Impacts Performance

You probably have concluded by now that Ben and I share a strong pet peeve regarding the practice of rudeness and arrogance, especially concerning managers' attitudes and behaviors toward new agent candidates.  Like an abusive individual who is dating, an arrogant manager might attract a few desperate, insecure partners, but they're guaranteed to miss the cream of the crop.

Furthermore, new evidence suggests that rudeness impacts even more than successful hiring:

In three experimental studies, the simple act of being a witness to rudeness displayed by a peer or an authority figure toward someone, significantly reduced the observer's performance in routine tasks, as well as creative tasks.  In addition to this, rudeness appeared to be contagious.  The observer became less civil to others.

So why does rudeness persist?  Why do we allow people, especially managers, who impact so many, get away with it and set the contagious behavior in the office?  My hypothesis is that when the economy was booming, some arrogant-prone people attributed the success of their office to themselves, rather than the profound amount and frequency of money changing hands.  And, like an abusive spouse, people became so attached to these people that everyone just accepted their behavior.  Some of these people may never revert back to a spirit of humility and kindness to others, while some will hopefully change.

A few years ago, I had the unfortunate experience of witnessing this phenomenon first hand, while I watched the performance of my son's high school varsity basketball team over a period of three years.  No one doubted the coach's knowledge and strategy when it came to basketball, and everyone was aware that he had inherited some excellent players and had the opportunity to do very well.  But, the coach was a bully.  Not to everyone...just to the players who weren't the stars.  He clearly disrespected the players that he didn't see as huge contributors.  The result was a team who consistently underperformed.

This research confirms what all of the parents suspected:  The bullying of some players impacted the performance and creativity of all players.

The implications of these studies are too important to ignore.  It's not just the victims of rudeness who are impacted, rather everyone.  Much as second hand smoking impacts everyone within inhaling range, rudeness impacts everyone within earshot.  In these current times, where we must squeeze out as much performance and creativity as possible, how much rudeness can we afford to ignore?

Source:
Porath, C. and Erez, A. (2009). Overlooked but not untouched: How rudeness reduces onlookers’ performance on routine and creative tasks, Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes, 109 (1), 29-44

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Editor's Note: This article was written by Dr. David Mashburn. Dave is a Clinical and Consulting Psychologist, a Partner at Tidemark, Inc. and a regular contributor to WorkPuzzle. Comments or questions are welcome. If you're an email subscriber, reply to this WorkPuzzle email. If you read the blog directly from the web, you can click the "comments" link below. 

How To Answer The Excuse: "I Don't Have The Money"

This edition is intended for our recruiter clients and those in the real estate industry who actually talk to new agent candidates on a regular basis.

We have heard the common and repeated concern that candidates have now more than ever (even if they have shown initial interest in knowing more about becoming and agent): "I don't have the money."  This statement has begun to take a significant toll on new agent enrollment in licensing school and new agent ventures overall.

I'm unclear how most recruiters choose to answer this objection, but I have a few thoughts that hopefully might stir some creativity and resolve in your ability to challenge this response.

What are their options?  Most smart people know that it takes education and often risk and investment, to succeed at anything in life that is worth doing.  Remember the old saying..."If everyone could do it, it would be too easy, and everyone would."...meaning that the competition would be too great for anyone to really succeed.  But, that's not my point...

My focus here is primarily on the cost and reward of any education.  Education is almost always an integral piece of the solution to being stuck with no options for growth.  Education helps one figure out if something is right for them, and gives them hope and freedom for the future.  These facts are so widely accepted that most households are willing to shell out plenty of money to make sure it happens.

A May 2011 Pew Research white paper called "Is College Worth It?" reports that 5% of all household debt, including mortgage, is dedicated to education.  This, despite the fact that only 40% believe they have gotten their money's worth:

"Amid rising costs and a sluggish economy, many Americans are questioning whether a college education is good value for the money.  A large majority (75%) of the public says college is no longer affordable for most Americans.  And only four-in-ten say the higher education system does an excellent (5%) or good (35%) job providing value to students given the amount of money they and their families are paying for college."

So, from this finding one would expect, given the economy and 60% believing it wasn't worth cost, that enrollment would be down.  But, it's not- It's up!

So, what's happening?  The answer seems clear:  People are using this moment in history to invest in their futures.  They are using this time to bite the bullet and make the necessary sacrifices now, so that they can build a better future later.

Education builds hope.  It opens options.  It gets people out of a sense of learned helplessness and helps them build towards something new.  Everyone needs this hope.  There are reasons that people click on our ads and tell you that they want to be contacted.  They had a moment of hope.  Remember, people will often resist change and throw into your lap their worst fears, often times subconsciously, hoping that someone will help shake them out of their own self-sabotaging defenses.  It's not your job to convince them... However, it is your duty to challenge them.  If you believe that education in real estate is worth it, it seems a bit easier to sell.  How much less does real estate licensing cost than a college education?

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Editor's Note: This article was written by Dr. David Mashburn. Dave is a Clinical and Consulting Psychologist, a Partner at Tidemark, Inc. and a regular contributor to WorkPuzzle. Comments or questions are welcome. If you're an email subscriber, reply to this WorkPuzzle email. If you read the blog directly from the web, you can click the "comments" link below.